Parental Tips To Help Their Kids Keep Their Confidence And Self-esteem
December 4th, 2008

A child with high self-esteem is a child who can trust others, and feels secure and accepted in their social circle. They have been taught to know their self-worth and can face challenging situations with a high confidence and better attitude. It will also keep them from allowing them to be bullied or threatened by others. In the same token, it will prevent them from being bossy and controlling of his or her peers because they will be capable and have respect of another person's wishes and needs. They will be able to make and keep friends much easier and not feel the need to be like everyone else, which is especially important for those children with learning disabilities.

When you teach your child how to have self-esteem, spend plenty of time with them while they engage in their activities. Praise him or her for good choices and allow him or her to make choices alone to prove that you can trust them. When the child makes a poor decision, explain the consequences of what they do. This way, they understand you are not mad, just that every action has a consequence. Good choices produce positive outcomes and negative choices produce bad outcomes. Tell your child that they are good, but their choice was not the best it could be. Discuss what they could have done and what they should do in the future. Stay calm and allow direct conversation and acknowledge your child's emotions. This will help them realize that it is okay to feel a certain way but they must know how to appropriately express it. Avoid over criticizing your child and don't rush to save them from frustrating situations. Give your child some time to make good decisions for themselves.

Assigning chores that are age appropriate can also boost a child's self-esteem. It gives them a sense of contribution to the home and family. Make sure you thoroughly show the child what is expected and allow them to do it on their own. Praise them for a job well done and thank them for helping. Children love feeling needed and important. By making them responsible for their own room and other small chores their confidence rises. Try not to jump in and help him or her if they aren't doing them perfectly. Let them have the time to accomplish them on their own. Over time they will become better and better. As your child gets into adolescence their self-esteem may begin to drop. This is normal and apart of the dramatic changes taking place. Make sure you have explained what he or she should expect during puberty and that all the changes are normal. It is important for them to know everyone goes through the same thing. Be there to reassure him or her as much as possible and don't allow them to shut you out. This will enable you to help keep their esteem high and build their confidence level.

When adolescents have a high self-worth, they tend to believe in themselves better. They have self-respect, respect for others, and a sense of importance and belonging. Self-esteem allows a child or teen to deal with new tasks and challenges head on and with confidence. They interact better with others as well. If a teen has low self-esteem, they may be prone to give up too easily or cheat when they can't get their way or get frustrated. All kids at any age thrive for attention and want love and appreciation. It is important for parents to remember to give a "well done" or "excellent" to their kids regularly. It is too easy to tell them what they are doing wrong, but it should be just as easy to tell them what they are doing right. Good mental health and good self-esteem go hand in hand. By promoting your child to feel better about themselves will keep them mentally healthy. By taking an active role early and later in helping build you child's self-esteem and confidence you give your child a lifetime of blessings and benefits. The child will be capable of acting independently and be able to assume responsibility for them. They can take pride in their accomplishments and will be able to accept good praise for their efforts. Teens and children with high self-esteem handle frustration and peer pressure better than one who have low self-esteem. They will be willing to try new things and handle their emotions better. It is never too much work to help your child have the best self-image possible

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